Age and sex do not interfere with one another!
Frank confessions: about middle-aged and advanced sex, hormones, husbands and lovers
- 69% of married or regular partner women aged 35 to 55 rate their current sex life on a 10-point scale of 7 or more.
- 19% of women aged “berries” in the south of Russia gave their sex life the highest rating - 10 out of 10.
- 43% of women surveyed between the ages of 40 and 50 said they had sex 2-3 times a week.
- 71% of women reported having sex at least once a week.
- 46% of women surveyed believe that their sex life is now better than when they were 20 years old. “My husband and I have become much more relaxed over time, we have no prohibitions,” a 43-year-old woman from the Moscow Region.
- 73% of women who are divorced or single for other reasons also noted that their sex life is good as never before - exciting new relationships ignite emotions.
- 20% of married women admit that they began to think that marital sex was dull and boring and mentally they had already decided to start an affair on the side.
- 15% of women aged 50-54 have cheated on their husbands, have no regrets and are going to do so in the future.
Why shouldn't I feel sexy?
Teacher Lyudmila Sh., 41, divorced, lives in the Northern District of Moscow
“In my life there have been successful and unsuccessful sexual experiences. I think that in a long-term relationship it is very difficult to maintain an interest in sex, because you often know in advance what the partner is going to do, and sex can become bland. But I have not yet encountered a similar situation, since all my relationships lasted no more than 4 years. Now I am alone again, and I am happy - there is nothing better than closing the door and being alone, putting on a dressing gown and laying down on the sofa with a book. I think my generation has been able to appreciate the benefits of the freedom that now accompanies sex. And why not take advantage of this to the maximum? Sex undoubtedly brings more pleasure with age, when you know yourself and your needs better. I know that many of my peers think so. Now, at 41, I look much sexier than ever before. I go to the gym to keep fit, but the real changes are coming from the inside. I am confident in my body. There is nothing more boring than people who constantly talk about cellulite. You have to treat yourself well in order to get as much as possible from sex, and I can’t wait to find out what awaits me in the near future. Can I imagine myself having sex at 70? I hope so. For this we live! ”
The younger man is sexier
Anna D., a researcher, 53 years old, lives with her 44-year-old husband and two children from their previous marriages.
“After the divorce, it was very difficult for me to find someone who would really like. Therefore, when after 3 years a friend advised me to meet on the Internet, I was ready for anything. I liked going on dates, but I didn't want to go on second with anyone. Sergey was the first man I wanted to see again. By the time we found out how old they were, we were already chatting on the phone and getting along so well that the age difference didn't matter. We got married just a year later. Life with a younger man is undoubtedly more pleasant than with a man older, and this also applies to sex! Of course, this is not only the case, but his body is more attractive, and he is much more inventive, not fixated on one thing in sex, as is the case with older men. My sex drive is now much stronger than before, and a younger man is the best match for this. When I was 20-30, I could do without sex for a long time. In my first 20 year marriage, sex became depressingly boring. And my young husband made me younger. Everyone takes us for peers with him, but still I try to take care of myself, although my husband says that I look beautiful. The difference in age also suits the husband: he likes the coincidence of our temperaments and desires and the fact that we honestly and freely speak with each other about the most intimate. ”
Our bonds only grow stronger with age
Alexandra F., 61, lives in Samara with her husband Konstantin. They have four adult children.
“After 38 years of marriage and the birth of 4 children, we have maintained a healthy approach to sex. We are as inventive as before; maybe my husband will not throw me on the kitchen table, but he can pounce on me in the bedroom! Years have not made us less attractive to each other. As we age together, our bonds become stronger. I do not think that external age-related changes affect the strength of marriage. Loving men do not notice how female bodies change, they only notice how women are worried about their appearance. When you just met someone, sex is magic, and after a couple of years it becomes just part of the relationship. Sex is an integral part of life, but do not dwell on it. I do not agree with the opinion that sexual experience should change all life, and if this does not happen, something is wrong with you. People attach too much importance to how to do everything right, instead of just having fun. Sometimes I eat the most gourmet delicacies, and sometimes sandwiches with sausage, and I enjoy both. It's the same in sex: what I like is good enough for me. Of course, I try to look good for Bones, especially when we go somewhere together. He rarely gives compliments, but if someone praises my appearance, then Kostya is proud of me. Our memories help maintain a strong relationship. When you have a rich shared past, don't worry too much about sex. ”
Women must study their own sexuality
Interior Designer Veronika L., 45, divorced, but is meeting a new partner.
“When I was growing up, they did not give me any sex education and I had no idea how an orgasm should be felt. Over time, I came to terms with the fact that my sex life did not bring full satisfaction, I thought that something was wrong with me. Only when I met my current partner did I decide that something needed to be changed. For the first time I ended up with a man for whom it is important that I share his pleasure, and I was afraid that I could not meet his desires. Once I saw an advertisement for a vibrator on the Internet and decided to order it. I had never used sex toys before, and I was embarrassed. But I wanted to achieve orgasm on my own, to do the same during sex. It completely changed me. I realized that women should study their sexuality. Changing something is never too late. Sex is important at any age. And my sex life is better than ever. ”
Men and sex toys
- 48% of all women surveyed prefer their peers to young men, consider them more attractive. “I don't need another son. I need someone more mature, sensitive and understanding, ”- a 49-year-old resident of Bryansk.
- 43% of women who are divorced or living separately from their husbands consider young men more relaxed and sexy than their peers.
- 12% of women used erotic toys to improve their sex life. This indicator is the highest for women 40–44 years old (41%) and among single women (50%).
- 22% of women surveyed said they would like to try a medicine similar to male Viagra to improve their sexual lives.
Start and rapprochement
- 5% of women say they usually initiate sex
- 28% - that the initiative comes from a partner
- 67% - that both take the initiative equally often
- 56% of women surveyed say that feeling close with a partner is most important when making love
Psychologist's comment about sex with women aged
Head of the free telephone psychological consultation "Path" at the Higher School of Psychology
About glossy beauty
For older women, advertising images from TV screens, from magazine covers can cause envy when everywhere they see images of young girls with perfect bodies and inevitably compare them with themselves, with their aging body. In addition, a woman is increasingly worried that her husband (partner) compares her, with whom he lived for 20 years, with younger persons. But this is only a part of women, a certain group. They were dissatisfied with something in their appearance in adolescence and youth, they consider themselves to be already aged at 23, envy 17-year-old!
About age complexes
From birth, our life is a series of losses: adolescence is also parting with your child’s body. And each such loss, each new stage requires a certain work of consciousness. Here we must admit to ourselves: that which has changed will no longer be the same. But in every age - and after 30, and after 40, and beyond - there are charms. And those who can come to terms with the fact that time will inevitably leave its traces on us are able to enjoy life at a more mature age. After the onset of menopause, a woman no longer fears becoming pregnant, feels more free in sex, this positively affects her behavior in bed, and this is transmitted to her husband or lover. In addition, there are no longer worries and worries associated with young children, which also has a beneficial effect on sex life. Children already live on their own, they have their own families, and mature couples can finally think about themselves, their intimate joys. I know women who, at the age of 70, have safely had sex with their peers, not only that, some say that they can’t live a day without a husband’s affection, their relationship is so harmonious.
About routine in relationships
People complaining of boredom in sex have a fear of change; they are afraid to change something. One way to overcome this: allow yourself to fantasize with a partner. Be free and open with each other.
Do not be afraid to take risks and experiment! If a woman is confident in herself, in her body, does not suffer about age-related changes, her full-fledged sexual relationship can last until old age.